1. Hug for 20 seconds
Studies show that a 20 second hug raises oxytocin levels. Oxytocin is also known as the “cuddle-hormone” and facilitates a sense of love and connection, especially in women3. Most couples don’t take the time to hug at all, much less for 20 seconds, but this simple activity is a way of bookending the day and entering the new chapter of the evening. It provides a clear transition and a foundation of feel-good hormones. Men need to be hugged three times as much as women to get to similar levels, so go for a full minute of hugging.
2.For every one negative interaction, you need 5 positives.
According to eminent marriage therapist John Gottman, (who has an entire laboratory in Seattle dedicated to studying interactions between couples), the difference between those relationships that succeed and those that fail is the ability to maintain a high ratio of positive to negative interactions. The ideal ratio should be 5-to-1 — five positive interactions for every negative one.
3. Surprise your guy