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Always Breaking Up?

The breakup boyfriend. If you are constantly breaking up and getting back together with a boyfriend, this is  a serious sign of relationship trouble. Consider not talking for awhile and trying to figure out if this relationship is really worth saving. 1. The problem that won't disappear Most couples fight over the same problems -- money, sex, work, kids, chores. Whatever you are fighting over now probably will be the same fight you have in a month or year. So you need to find a solution and stick with it. Accept each other for who you are and lower expectations to increase happiness. For example, if he is always late, then understand that this is part of him and don't expect him to be on time. 2. Fighting is ok Happy couples fight. But, how you fight is what is important. Respect each other, listen to what your partner is saying and try to find a solution that makes you both happy. 3. Can you live with it? You meet. You date. You fall in love. And then reality hits

Why men fall in love

1. Common Interests -- You aren't clueless "I fell in love with a girl when she could tell me what a 6-4-3 DP meant in a baseball box score without having to be told 3,987 times. " Impress a guy with your knowledge and you could find him falling in love very quickly! 2. You inspire him to bigger things You encourage him, believe in him and allow him to talk about his success and struggles. A strong woman who stands by her man can truly steal a man's heart! Supportive, positive, and independent women can impact a man's life in great ways and light a fire under him to pursue great dreams. 3. You compliment Him with your personality/background He's the shy, nerdy guy. You are the outspoken, funny, extrovert. You are the sensitive, warm, loving and he is strong and powerful. You are book smart. He is street smart. 4. You stand up for yourself -- and gain his respect A woman that doesn't let a man walk over her, or stands up for what she believe

Intense Feelings and Signs of Deep Love

Here are a few examples of deep intensive and perhaps obsessive love: 1. They are (sexually) possesive 2. They have an intense longing and craving  to be with you emotionally, not just physically/sexually 3. Obsession -- they think about you a lot -- day and night 4. They would die for you 5. You are the center of their world 6. They find no (or very little) fault in you 7. They feel a rush from you 8. When they are or feel rejected -- they are deeply sad and experience a great deal of pain 9. They believe you are different from every woman that exists. 10. They become very moody -- when things don't appear to work out with you they have a great sadness, and they are very happy/high when things are going well with you. from Love Anthropologist Helen Fisher

He said you mean the world to me

Here's a reader questions: What does it mean when a man says "you mean the world to me"? A man who tells you he thinks the world of you (and means it) truly cares for you! You are his everything and you deeply mean a lot to him. Consider this one of biggest compliments a man could give you! A man who loves you deeply says: "You mean the world to me", "I cherish you" and "You are important to me". The thought of losing you would bring great sadness into his life! He admires you, cares for you, respects you and loves you very deeply! Remember to always be sure to check his actions with his words! Do not let a guy express his "love" only through his words. Always be sure he is treating you respectfully and affectionately. Good luck to all you ladies of the world!

Does He Love you? He fell in love *really* fast

Don't be one of those women who are fooled by the fast charmer. The man who has a fantastic smile, a great personality, very good looking -- what could be the perfect man! He may barely know you, but he seems to warm up very quickly. He compliments you frequently, tries to get physically close very fast. He also may try to get to know you very quickly as well. He could ask you many questions (without talking about himself). He seems highly focused on you and very interested! Can you believe you have found "the one". A man who is totally and completely devoted to you -- only within only a few short days/weeks. Hold on, Girl and listen up! A guy that falls that fast for you isn't in love, he is in lust/obsession or just got out of another relationship. If you are looking for real love, let it blossom and grow over time.   Love is built on a foundation of friendship and trust. So don't confuse quick obsession with glorious love. 

Marriage and Math: Will It Last?

Did you know that scientists have developed a mathematical model with 94% accuracy to determine if a marriage will be successful? This is how it works: Scientists measure the interaction between a couple. Couples discuss a variety of topics (including sensitive ones like making love and finances) while being video taped. After the discussion takes place, scientists examined the video and measure every interaction between the couple. Both positive and negative scoring is associated with loving and affection behavior vs. disrespectful behavior. Scientists classify the interactions including: anger, affection, humor, and respect. What does this mean for you? Every comment you make to your man has a huge impact! Be positive, affection and loving. If you find your man is *not* returning the favor, consider this -- would you like to be with this person the rest of your life? Some indicators of divorce: -- If you argue with your spouse about finances once a week, your marriage is

Does He Love Me if he is constantly busy?

One question from a reader:Does my man love me if he is constantly busy? First, consider what your man does for a living, or what his circumstances are: if he getting his PhD, is working full time, and going to school full time; or if his job requires him to travel extensively to meet with clients, you may rarely see him. If you are dating a lawyer, entrepreneur, or a doctor, you can expect that his free time is limited. If your man is very devoted to his work, ask yourself -- does he call me when he has free time to spare -- even if it is just for a few minutes? Does he make plans and let you know when he is again free? If he is squeezing you between his very busy schedule, this is a good sign he cares for you. If your man isn't busy due to school and work, but with his hobby or friends, you may want to consider the following: Does he make *any* time for you in the future or regularly on the weekend? If he is just keeping you on the back burner until someone better comes alo

Does He Love You -- Relationship Snags

What happens when your relationship hits a snag? For example, he's been very busy at work and you haven't seen him in awhile. He (or you ) are constantly late, messy, cheap, tired, sad, and so goes the list. If a man loves you -- the thought of losing you will definitely cause him to stir into action. He will become very solution oriented, figuring out "a plan" to make sure things will work. Inevitably, if a man feels he cares for you and you are wonderful, he will bend his ways, and be determine to find a "happy medium" or some men may simply cave in altogether. If you are the problem (you are nagging him, you want him to always pay for things, you have been demanding and driving him nuts) he will try to figure out a compromise -- instead of dropping you like a hot potato. On the other hand, a man who doesn't truly care for you, will find your relationship disposable. He may threaten you with a breakup, tell you he could easily find another, or te

When a man says he cares for you but is not in love with you.

Here is a reader's question: If a man says he cares for you, but does not love you --what does that mean and what should you do? This means: HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU!!! Do not stick around! You should stop spending time with this person if you are becoming emotionally attached and are hoping he will fall in love with you. This man will still be dating other girls, despite the fact that he is aware of the fact that you love him.If you are waiting around HOPING he will change his mind about you -- DON'T -- he already has!  The majority of men are straightforward communicators. In a case such as this, this man probably sees many wonderful attributes in you. Perhaps you a sweet and generous, and a fun companion, but he clearly doesn't want to be with you, so stop holding on! Smart daters understand that sometimes no matter how hard you try, how much love you give, or who you try to change to be-- someone won't fall in love with you. It is best to find someone who is ready

Does He Love You? What does he do when he's out of town?

Pay attention to what happens when your guy goes out of town. Perhaps he's going away to visit friends or family, a business trip, or he is taking a "guys weekend". Whatever the reason, ask yourself the below questions, to see if he cares! If your man is gone for a week, does he miss you? 1. Does he contact you while gone? Is he calling you regularly to see how you are doing and tell you he misses you? Does he call you, send you emails or try to chat with you? 2. Does he bring you back something? If he brings you a gift this is an extra bonus! 3. Does he say he wishes you were there? A guy that cares for you wants you near! He will tell you -- Baby, I wish you were near me to see the beach, forest, or say, honey we should come here together. 4. Does he ask you to go? A guy that cares for you, will try to see if you can meet up with you over the weekend, or if you can join on the entire trip! On the other hand if you never hear from him, watch out! He may not care

Check Facebook for Signs of His Love

Examine his facebook page for insights on how he feels about you. 1. Does He Post Post Pictures of you alone or together? Sign he loves you! 2. Does He comment on your Facebook page and (extra bonus) -- he's affectionate publicly towards you? Sign he loves you! 3. Is he adding a slew of other single girls on his Facebook Pages? Why is he adding other so many single girls? Not a good sign he loves you. 4. Is he flirting with these other single girls publicly? Not a sign he loves you -- he should make you feel secure about your relationship and be committed to you! 5. If you ask who these single girls are (perhaps before you started dating).  Does he tell you he will take them down so you feel comfortable?  A guy that will  go out of his way to make you feel secure in the relationship -- is a keeper! Huge sign he cares for you deeply. Good luck to you beautiful ladies of the world!

Signs It is Time for a Break Up

When is it time to part ways? 1. You see your friends or family more than him That's because he is always too busy for you. You have to beg him for his time and when he does give you his time -- he makes you feel guilty for it. This is not what a relationship should look like. He should be going out of his way to see you -- if he loved you and the timing is right. 2. You give way more than you receive It seems you are the one working hard in the relationship, cooking his meals, doing his laundry, paying for things, sacrificing and dishing out love. He on the other end is demanding, complaining, telling you to change, and finally making his life way more important and valuable than yours. 3. You argue way too often and for a long time If you find that you are arguing constantly, this is a sign that things are headed downhill fast. 4. You are consistently sad Instead of feeling happy to see him, or happy when you are away from him, you find yourself lonely and feeling un

Signs He Cares

Question from a reader: What are some signs he cares? 1. He surprises you He surprises you with little things. He bought your favorite chocolate at the store; he wrote you a little note to wish you best of luck on your exam; he did your laundry without asking. These little things are signs he is thinking about you throughout the day, while he is on his errands, or when he gets up in the morning. 2. He is worried about your health and safety Someone who wants to protect you and worries about you is a big sign that he cares for you. If he gets upset when you are sick, or are experiencing re-occurring symptoms, he is concerned for your well being. He doesn't want you engaging in dangerous activities, because the thought of losing you deeply troubles him. If you were ever in a dangerous situation , he would first think about protecting you over himself.

Are you in Love with a Loser?

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Today's message is about dating a loser. Some women have such a terrible sense of self worth that they accept losers into their lives, because they feel they can do not better. It is so critical to value yourself in a relationship, so you know when to stand up for yourself and know when you are being mistreated. Below are some tips to help you to "see the light". 1. He makes you feel unworthy. If a man is putting you down, making comments that you are not good enough or smart enough. If he is correcting your speech or publicly embarrassing you, take note sister: you are dating a loser. If you are not good enough for him, then why is he sticking around? A man should be positive and love you for who you are instead of trying to change you. If he is trying to mold into someone he wants you to be, get ready for a life of unhappiness. 2. You change to make him happy. Perhaps you used to be joyful and talkative. You used to have a free spirit and were friendly to ev

Lyrics - When a man loves a woman

When a Man Loves a Woman  When a man loves a woman Can't keep his mind on nothin' else He'd trade the world For a good thing he's found If she is bad, he can't see it She can do no wrong Turn his back on his best friend If he puts her down When a man loves a woman Spend his very last dime Trying to hold on to what he needs He'd give up all his comforts And sleep out in the rain If she said that's the way It ought to be When a man loves a woman I give you everything I've got (yeah) Trying to hold on To your precious love Baby please don't treat me bad When a man loves a woman Deep down in his soul She can bring him such misery If she is playing him for a fool He's the last one to know Loving eyes can never see Yes when a man loves a woman I know exactly how he feels 'Cause baby, baby, baby I am a man When a man loves a woman

Things you do that cause him NOT to fall in love.

Here are a few things you can do, to ensure a guy doesn't fall in love with you. 1. Act Selfishly Awesome men want a lady who is kind, thoughtful and generous. Selfish girls that talk about themselves all the time, demand their way, never want to pay for anything - make a guy fall out of love FAST. 2. Talk about how badly you want to have a wedding/get married/have babies If you urge a man into marriage and talk incessantly about your dream to walk down the aisle, he may think you could care less who you walk down the aisle with as long as  you get there. A guy wants to feel that he is special to you, and one way to do this is avoid talking about your wedding, before you know or a guy has decided he even wants to marry you! Of course it is smart to check in and make sure a man is wanting the same long term goal, but you could definitely turn a guy off by abusing this topic of conversation. 3. Not reaching out/ caring for his family and friends You should definitely