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Question Him

Some believe: I am going to fall in love and it will be amazing.  We will love each other forever and nothing will stand in our way.  Our differences will not get in the way and our relationship will always be happy and fulfilling. I am here to say - your relationship will likely have problems and differences will arise. Each partner's expectations and assumptions may strain the relationship as your varying opinions arise. I believe that it is critical you talk about Expectations and Assumptions about the relationship and each other.When you relationship starts to get serious, sit down with your man and discuss details of what your life would be like together if you were to marry. Here are a few questions you should definitely want to discuss: The five topics that couples fight about are: sex, chores, children, not feeling loved, money and in-laws. So these are the major question you want to talk about: (I know this topic seems very boring, but it is Oh- So critical) 1

When life falls apart

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When a man loves you,  he sticks around through the highs and the lows of life. When you are at your lowest point in life if he's still holding your hand and caring for you - you know he loves you deeply. If you were to lose a job, crash his car, become very ill, be embroiled in a lawsuit, short sale, foreclosure or a death in your family - look to see if he's still there comforting you and lifting you up. A man who is there lending an ear is a sign of a solid man who loves you and will continue to love you throughout your lifetime. When you enter a dark period of your life - this results in loss of  confidence. Suddenly, you may not be the same woman he once knew, instead and he will see a different side to you that may cause him to flee. You may cry every night, become needy and sensitive. Perhaps you become more moody, easily frustrated and temperamental. But a man who sees you through these tough times - one with amazing character - will brighten your day and let you

You made him cry

Have you ever been in a heated debate/argument or suggested you break it off-- and he started to cry? A guy that gets emotional over you shows he has very deep rooted feelings for you. If your words have brought him to an emotional state (especially if he never cries) -- this is an indication that he holds you and your opinion in high regard. A guy that expresses his emotions in front of you trusts you and a guy who is serious about you sticks around during these emotional/painful/difficult times. Don't harm him with your tongue When you hurt your man you are hurting your relationship! Be careful with the words you choose -- do not be carelessly putting him down or threatening to leave. Although you can say you are sorry, it still leaves a dent and mistrust in the relationship. Bad boys don't cry If you are dating a man who has been through a lot of relationships and been through plenty of breakups -- if you are "just another girl" to him , you won't find

He loves you when he plans trips with you

One sign a guy wants to be with you is he wants to get away with you. It could be camping at Yosemite, heading off to Santa Cruz, or planning a trip to watch fireworks for the Fourth of July! If a guy loves spending time with you, he cares for you and wants to be near you! He enjoys your company and seeks out special time together.  Travel spices up your relationship! Travel is such a wonderful way to get to know each other and spice up your relationship. You can learn the history and culture of a new location together, stand in front of nature together and bond in a new way by getting out of the monotony of every day life. You see each other from a new perspective He may want to travel with you so you can spend time focused on each other full time. When you travel you are around each other all day and night -- so all your little habits will emerge. Travel is an excellent way for your man to see another side of you.

He tells me: He doesn't know if he wants a future with me

Here is a reader question:  He doesn't know if he wants a future with me. What should I do? First, I would find out why. Are you selfish? Do you get angry easily? Are you a drama mama? Are you too flirtatious? Finding out the why he feels this way is critical. Perhaps there is something inside of you -- that desperately needs some fixing. Regardless of which relationship you enter -- this may likely be a problem.  If he is asking you to work on an area or you will break up then ask your friends and family if you think his request is reasonable. Be sure to ask multiple people. Take some time to think about the why. If you feel that you are prepared to change then concsciously make the effort to work through your own issues, but don't be surprised if this is difficult.  If you determine his request is ridiculous or it goes against your fundamental nature -- for example, he says you are too loud, or you aren't funny enough -- then I would consider leaving altoget

Your Birthday

It's your birthday, and if he loves you, he should definitely do something special. This special plan or gift does not need to be expensive, but instead it should be something that makes you feel loved and cherished. When a man loves you, he may surprise you with a romantic or favorite restaurant, a sweet gift, or surprise you with a drive to a special location. He might make it special by taking you to a baseball game or throw you a surprise party. Perhaps he will turn your car into a party house filled with balloons, or he might simply get your car cleaned. What's critical here is that there are many ways that he can make it special and if you see he has put effort in, you know he loves you! He does things he doesn't like to do He especially loves you when he plans something he could pass on. When a guy cares for you he may do something he typically won't. Let's say he NEVER cooks, but he decides to get in the kitchen and make you a delicious Birthday dinner

Why he would fall for you...

What makes a guy fall in love: 1. You are interesting. You tell funny, scary or outrageous stories. You have an imagination that runs wild. Perhaps he finds it fascinating that you have traveled through Europe, or you're an immigrant that came form humble beginnings. A guy can fall in love with a special girl with very cool experiences that make you well rounded. Perhaps you have a quick wit, or can tell jokes better than Chris Rock. 2. You are knowledgeable/intelligent You love learning and read regularly about news. 3. You are cute You have a beautiful smile, smell, and softness to your face. You are a feminie angel. 4. You are sweet You love cuddling and caring for him. You rub moisturizer on his dry hands, and make him pancakes on Saturdays. You are emotional -- you miss him when he is gone and always wish him a fantastic day. 5. You remind him of his mom Whether it is your gestures, your attitude, the way you look or talk, a guy who loves his mom wants to fin