Does He Love Me?

Nagging doesn't get you more love. Complaining that he doesn't spend enough time with you, that he is not affectionate, or you want to know if you will have a future together -- doesn't get you where you want to be. Instead: 1. Show him love and affection when you need something. 2. Ask him in a loving manner for your requests. For example "Honey, Do you think you could" "Baby, can you help me with" 3. Remember that if you must be forceful in a relationship, it probably isn't meant to be. If you struggle a lot and feel that it causes you suffering, you should free yourself of it. This doesn't mean a relationship doesn't take work and sacrifice. It most definitely does! However, if you are constantly need to ask for love, and he doesn't give this freely, then you may be hoping to have it forever. This last point is important. Too many women put up and try so hard, and complain when they aren't getting what they want, in hopes he

Nagging doesn't get you more love. Complaining that he doesn't spend enough time with you, that he is not affectionate, or you want to know if you will have a future together -- doesn't get you where you want to be. Instead: 1. Show he love and affection for no reason. 2. Ask him in a loving manner for your requests. For example "Honey, Do you think you could" "Baby, can you help me with" 3. Remember that if you must be forceful in a relationship, it probably isn't meant to be. If you struggle a lot and feel that it causes you suffering, you should free yourself of it. This doesn't mean a relationship doesn't take work and sacrifice. It most definitely does! However, if you are constantly need to ask for love, and he doesn't give this freely, then you may be hoping to have it forever. This last point is important. Too many women put up and try so hard, and complain when they aren't getting what they want, in hopes he would chan

Ok - Big wake up call. If a guy isn't calling you his girlfriend, but his 'lady friend', this is a sign he doesn't want to really be with you, and doesn't love you. You are like a used beat up car --  convenient for the time being and fulfills his basic needs -- until he finds the more classy, expensive upgrade automobile of his dreams, then he won't need to drive you around anymore. Do not wait around for a guy like this! The fact that you stick around and put up with this status, is enough for a guy to not respect you. He's likely flirting with other women on the side -- at work, or at bars, and doesn't want to feel bad/guilty about it, so that's why he doesn't officially make you his girlfriend. Get a clue. If he isn't locking you down then stop wasting your time. Why doesn't he want you? You may not be the one for him. His timing may be off, or he's just too damn immature to realize how awesome you are. Whatever the case, d

A relationship can be compared to a job/career and here's why: 1. When you are interviewing for a job --it is thrilling and exciting. During the interview process  you wonder, will they like you? Will they call you back? You may meet several people and hiring managers that decide whether you are good enough, smart enough, or worthy of their company. You worry over whether you will land the offer and be hired. Likewise, with a guy during your dating period, you wonder if he will continue seeing you and eventually, ask you to be his woommman!!! 2. When you apply for a job you may be "overqualified" for, you are applying for a guy that maybe you are out of his league??? But if you love the job and what you will be doing -- then that's your decision and you are the one that will live with it. (Not the people who judge you) OR you apply for a job that you are NOT qualified for (date a man that is out of your league) and perhaps it works out beautifully. 3. After

Real Love is: Kind Patient Humble Thoughtful Sincere Generous Positive  and Uplifting Caring Does your guy have the above attributes toward you? These are signs that he loves you. These are NOT signs of love Rude (Some women just think that's the way he is, and he does it to everyone. YUCK! When you demand respect, guess what - you get it!) Selfishness (He doesn't offer to help you carry in the groceries, help you to move, or build your IKEA desk) Guilt (He makes you feel bad about what you are not or what you did not do for him) Abusive (this should be obvious. But just to be sure everyone understand if a guy is putting you down, he doesn't love you -- whether this is physical or mental) Some final notes: 1. Don't devalue yourself. The more you think less of yourself , the more a man will. 2. Build yourself up. Have a life. Have other activities. He doesn't need to be the *only* thing in your life. That's just BORING and leads to low se