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Not so bad traits - Tis better to have a solid, reputable man

1. Predictable. He calls when he says he will. Shows he is thoughtful of you, and you can trust him. 2. Frugal This is a sign of maturity. Someone who can save for the future, and doesn't blow all his money on things. 3. Not the life of the party It's ok that he isn't the funniest, most exciting man in the world. 4. Quiet or shy Generally speaking quiet men can be sweet and wonderful. 5. Nerdy Nerdy can be solid and loyal! Remember, look for character!!!

Engagement Ultimatums

Is an engagement ultimatum appropriate? Is it appropriate to say to your man: "..if you don't want to get engaged after 2 years of dating, then I will move on." I think the answer (within reason) is an unequivocal YES. I know many stories of women who waited around 5, 7, 10 years for their man to propose, and guess what, he kept saying he would, and he didn't!!! Eventually the girl left, broken hearted with many wasted years. She had to start ALL over again after investing so much time and was that awful. Don't let a man waste your time, silly girl! If you are ready to marry, (and feel you know each other well and have dated extensively), if a guy wants to be with you, he doesn't need to throw the 1000 excuses book at you. What is also not very smart for women is to force/pressure/claw/whine their way into a proposal. This is also very silly. He may regret it later, and then you won't get the love you deserve, because it was under obligation.  

The Not so Incredibly Changing Man

Hi Ladies, Listen up. This is important. Let's say you've been dating a man for awhile, and over time you notice he isn't the same man you used to know. His sweet, gentle and kind  ways have become more critical, more unloving and more harsh. He used to be excited about you, and now, he's thoughtless. Additionally, he wants you to change as well. Although change is inevitable, if he is changing for the worst, he may not have the maturity yet to be ready for a long term commitment or perhaps he doesn't love you after all - you are not the person he once that you to be. When you are falling in love - things get better  over time, not worse. Will you have difficulties? Yes. Will he change? Only naturally. But, if he is not the same man you used to know, and you find yourself gradually growing apart -- Watch Out! He is not yet solid in his person, and he still has some growing (and growing up) to do. Perhaps taking a little break and letting him figure things