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Does He Love Me if he is very critical?

Overtime whoever you choose to love and spend your time with eventually, you will discover his faults over time these fault may really start to drive you nutty, even if you care for him deeply. Likewise, he will see those areas of your life that you really need help and are lacking. Here are a few examples: Now, let's say you are a laid back( he may call it lazy), and he is a highly motivated overachiever. Guess who's going to get a lecture on being lazy and not working hard enough. You do!  Perhaps you are a little bit messy, or careless and tend to stain your clothes a lot or leave wet towels on the floor of your bedroom. Well, your neat boyfriend may become very disappointed in you every time he sees your clothing hanging on a chair, your drawer hanging out of the dresser, or your trash filling over calling to be emptied.  Let's say you are very shy and he is incredibly outgoing -- guess who may get a lecture on being extroverted (despite the fact that you hate sma

Just Because He Does This, Does Not Mean He Loves You

Just because he... 1. takes you to fancy restaurants 2. tells you he thinks your great 3. makes love to you 4. calls you back when you call him 5. occasionally "hangs out" with you 6. occasionally calls you 7. invites you to hang out with his friends 8. thinks you have a good time together 9. has similar interests as you 10. buys you flowers or gifts 11. Tells you that you are beautiful Does Not Mean He Is In Love With You On the other hand, if 1. He is loyal to you 2. He is considerate of your feelings 3. He apologizes when he has hurt you 4. He works though difficulties rather than wanting it his way 5. He is unselfish 6. He is honest with you 7. He listens to your needs then these are good indications of love. And this is what you should look for in a man

He Loves You when he references your future children

When a man wants to be with you and marry you, he will make comments about your future children.  Here are some examples of this: "One day, we will tell our children about this date! They will love this story of our car breaking down and we laughed until help came!" "When we have children, we will teach them the Tango, Latin, and how to draw at an early age!" "Our children will NEVER act like that!" When a man is talking about your future and what he wants his/your life to look like, take note! A man that is dropping hints about your future life and children together is very serious about committing to you.  On the other hand, if a guys is saying, he doesn't know if he'll ever want to get married, want to commit fully to you or have children -- Listen to what he is saying! He means it! Don't wait around hoping a guy will change his mind about you or whether he wants to marry you! If he is clearly telling you he is not interested in a fu

Does He Love You? Looking good for him until you are 100.

After being in a relationship after several month, you may start to come off of your "honeymoon" of getting to know each other and  begin to feel comfortable and secure in the relationship. You begin to understand each other's quirks, and pains. At this point --you see his faults and he sees yours. You may have had a few fights, and maybe even have been close to calling off the relationship when it hit a snag.. One important aspect of a relationship as dating starts to fade, and you get into the groove of your relationship -- is the perception that you can stop trying to be what you were when you started the dating dance: the sexiest, most loving, sweet, and irresistible girl you were when he first laid eyes on you. Look Good for Him Until you are 100 I am here to say --don't let that happen! Do not get lazy with your relationship, because this is what causes love to fade. Instead, agree to look good for him forever -- until you are 100. Make a pact to be the bes

To Find Love You Need Humility

There are many women out there who can't find their man, not from lack of men that surround them or potential dates, but because no man can live up to these women's ridiculous standards. These women perceive each man as not good looking enough, not having the right job, not having enough education or not being capable of  charming their socks off to be the one. These women know exactly what they "want", and they waste many years looking for this man to fit their demanding list.  And so, these women go on with their lives, dating men, barely giving them any opportunity, and then moving onto the next man in hopes that he will fulfill the long list of traits she has created. Perhaps they are looking for "the one"-- their soul-mate, in which they find an incredibly amount of chemistry and passion that they are driven wild with desire. Some women will not want a guy who is "too nice" because they will walk all over them. They want a strong man! Ma

Does He Love you? Is he that kind of man ....

Let me tell you something important -- some men may not be build for the committed, loving, devoted relationship. When looking for a man, make sure to look for his ability to not just love you, but love those around him. His kindness to strangers, homeless, the taxi cab driver will reflect what is truly happening inside. It is important to not just look for someone who is crazy about you , but also knows how to treat his sister, mother, colleagues, and neighbors in a caring manner. Although some women find it entertaining and challenging to date a "strong" man who takes control who commands the room, and demands respect -- overtime his strength if he doesn't have a soft interior can lead to a painful and difficult future together. His actions today predict his future actions.

Does He Love You? He surprises You with things you love

Men that loves you will surprise you! 1.Surprise: A beautiful view You have plans to spend time together and you jump in his car for an ordinary day.  On the way, he gives  you the impression that perhaps he needs to run errands , or go back to his office to pick something up. You think little of it, but are a little confused why his errands seem to be 30 minutes away from his house. Suddenly, you are in a new city! He pulls up alongside a beautiful beach with a view of the city. You walk along the beach holding hands , and he tells you he loves you. 2. Birthday Surprise A guy that loves you wants to get you excited! He may make you think that your birthday will be a calm and quite one, and then secretly plan a huge party behind your back. Without you even knowing, he has emailed all your friends and family, picked out a cake, and organized a whole day around you! Why? Because he wants to make you happy! A guy that goes out of his way to surprise you for a special day, really lov

Does He Love You? He surprises You with things you love

Men that loves you will surprise you! 1.Surprise: A beautiful view You have plans to spend time together and you jump in his car for an ordinary day.  On the way, he gives  you the impression that perhaps he needs to run errands , or go back to his office to pick something up. You think little of it, but are a little confused why his errands seem to be 30 minutes away from his house. Suddenly, you are in a new city! He pulls up alongside a beautiful beach with a view of the city. You walk along the beach holding hands , and he tells you he loves you. 2. Birthday Surprise A guy that loves you wants to get you excited! He may make you think that One way he can do this is to secretly plan a party behind your back. Without even realizing, he has emailed all your friends and family, picked out a cake, and organized a whole day around you! A guy that goes out of his way to surprise you for a special day, really loves you! 3.

Molding Your Man

Some people mistakenly think that they will take the man they have and all his imperfections and "Mold Him" into the person they want him to be. This could be in the form of: Improving the way he dresses, talks, what he likes to do, who he hangs out with, what he does for a living or what kind of car he drives. Don't do this! Do not expect that your man is your blank canvas to create a masterpiece. Instead, understand that if he stays exactly the way he is and he is this person in 20 years you will love him. This is true love. Why should you not try to change someone? 1. It may work for a little while, but they will probably resort back to the person they are at the core. 2. It makes him feel that he has to be something else for you to love him 3. You may become very disappointed when it doesn't happen and you have wasted time Give suggestions, support him to be his best, but do not expect your man to become someone else. Best luck, Ladies!

On Again Off Again .

The scenario: You have a man who you love dearly, and he cares about you (but does not love you). You want to be with him, and he "kind of" wants to be with you, but won't really commit. You are constantly breaking up and getting back together. He will break it off, say he needs space, and then he will proceed to squirm his way back into your life. He tells you how much he misses you, and how you are the one for him. He showers you with affection, love, gifts, flowers, kisses, and attention. Of course you fall for it. Because you love him and cherish him, even though he has caused you great pain. And so.. You take him back. Weeks go by, everything seems fine, maybe even a few months go by. And then: it happens again. He needs space, he isn't sure about the relationship, and he wants out. He leaves you. And then, he wants you back again. The cycle continues to repeat itself. This can go on for years, even an entire lifetime. So listen up closely! For you

The Love Test: Results

Continuing from our last post -- now it is time to examine your results! After taking a back seat for a few days, what was your result? 1. You noticed he called and asked when he would see you again. He missed you! He does care about you -- as soon as you took a backseat and were no longer easily available, he realized how much he cares about you. He was more affectionate and loving, and appreciative of your relationship. Conclusion: when you aggressively always call him, and are always available you might be taken for granted. Be sure you let him do work on his part. 2. He didn't call. If he barely noticed that he hadn't talked to you in awhile, this is not a good sign. This relationship may be completely one sided. You are easy to be with, and he isn't interested in pursuing you. If you drop all contact on your end and never hear from him again, let him go! Do not be in a relationship that is one sided! Conclusion: You should consider whether he truly loves y

The Love Test: Take a backseat and see what happens.

Here's a good love test. If you are the person usually calling, emailing, stopping by and asking your man to get together, try this test! Do not contact him, email him, phone him, or request to see him and see what he does! A guy that cares for you and misses you will most certainly be begging to know when you are available next and why you are so busy. If you do not hear from him, and he doesn't seem concerned, you might want to reconsider the relationship. I am not suggesting play games, but instead see what happens when you aren't the first to initiate. Take a "back seat" approach and see if he starts to take the lead and ask to see you. For some men, not talking for a few days is not an issue, so it may be a day or two (or three) before he realizes. However, this is a good test (especially for aggressive women) to see if he cares for you. Again, do not play games, but instead allow him to "lead the way" and you will get some good insights.