Does He Love Me?

Here is a question from a reader: My boyfriend does nothing to show love or care. Does he love me? I will start off by defending men: Many boyfriends are lazy and feel comfortable after they have been with you for awhile. Some boyfriends feel that the relationship is enough, and they don't need to do anything special to keep it going. When it comes to planning, many men are perfectly fine with sitting back and letting you plan and do everything! (Especially Mama's boys) There are those girls who do a lot for their man, and get little in return. Often these girls never ask for more, and they never get it! On the other hand -- If your man does not give you any form of love, appreciate, affection, then I am concerned for you. What's the point of being in a relationship with someone who doesn't care for you! You are in a relationship to get the closeness, love and comfort you don't receive from colleagues, bosses, and the rest of the world. This person is suppose...

Another question from a reader: Does my boyfriend love me if he's mean to me? I am sorry I have to answer this question at all, because it should be obvious to many women. However, for those of you who aren't sure and  need someone to point it out. Does my boyfriend love me if he's mean to me? The answer is a resounding: No!  Do you want someone to mistreat you for the rest of you life? Do you want someone that puts you down and makes you sad? You are the creator of your life! No one can control the decisions you make. And you are making the choice to stay with this person. If someone is mean to you, you need to have some self respect and say "No Thank You!". You have the option to leave if someone is not caring for you and treating you well. It is not your responsibility to save this person and try to change them if they treat you poorly. Help them seek help, but do not get romantically involved. Before finding love, you should work on loving you...

One viewer asked: Does my man love ______ (fill in the blank: kids, dog, him mom, his motor cycle, his car, his job) more than me? I hate to say it, but be careful not to be that jealous girl! Don't be insecure with your man, instead give him freedom and he will love you more. 1. Do you love anything else besides your man? (the kids, your shoes, your job, your parents). 2. I ask you: does your man show you love? Does he tell you he loves you and spends time with you? The situation is this: if you ONLY had each other and nothing else in life: Life would get extremely boring. So, let your man spend time with his mom, his dog, his job (naturally) so he can be fulfilled in other ways. If you always restrict him from doing what he wants, he could grow bitter towards you. If you are always wondering if you come FIRST in the relationship, it shows that you are insecure. If you have a specific concerns, you may want to speak with him directly. For example: He isn't spendin...

Disagreements will happen. Use it to come closer together. All couples fight. They may fight over money, or family (where to spend holidays). Couples can fight over who tardiness, picking up the tab, or lack of time together. People fight when they are jealous or insecure. Fighting can occur when two people were brought up differently, when expectations or needs are not being met, when one partner feels taken advantage of, or when those in the relationship do not want to sacrifice for the other (not a sign of love). As your relationship progresses and you become more comfortable together, you may not feel like giving up your rights as an individual to fuse together as a couple. If you TRULY love each other, you are going to try to figure out what the problem is, and how you can find a solution. The best couples are solution-oriented and are fair. Each person sacrifices at times, and is needy at times. Each person accepts the other-- the drawbacks and weaknesses. Here are some...

Here is a question from a viewer: "What does it mean when he says he cherishes me?" A guy that say he cherishes you, is really into you, and may even love you. Of course, you want to look at his actions to cross check if what he says is aligned with what how he treats you. Love is action, not just words. (Read other blogs to get more information) Using the word "cherish" is really a sign that he is tender towards you and adores you. He feels you are special and regards you highly. When you cherish something (a car, a ring, a child), you protect it and with do anything to keep it safe.

1. You give each other freedom. You let each other be who you are naturally. One is not trying to control the other. You don't expect the other person to change over time, but accept them for their faults. 2. You both are striving to be the best for each other. You understand the limitations to each other and you both strive to be the best for each other, so the relationship can be healthy. You are putting time into the relationship. You communication clearly to understand the other person's needs. 3.You want each other for the right reasons. You want each other, because you truly care deeply for each other. You wish the best for your partner, and want his/hers success. You aren't in it for money, fame, boredom, or desperation. 4. Each sacrifices and serves at times. One person is not always getting their way. Both of you must make sacrifices at times.

When you first meet a man and he feels strongly towards you, you will start to notice that he wants to change for the better, so you will love him more. 1. He wants to be the best for you. He says it! When a man cares about you, he wants to be kinder, gentler, and a more fantastic human being. You inspire him to excel. 2. He wants to take care of himself, get in shape and look good. You will see him exercising more, lifting weights. You may see him dressing nicer for you or fixing his hair, just for you! 3. He is more interested in his career and providing for you, rather than having fun. A man that has met his woman that he cherishes, will want to get serious, especially if he is interested in starting a family and wants you to be the mother of his children. 4. He is maturing every day. You see him considering your thoughts more, becoming more self-less and become more attached to you.