I highly recommend checking out the book "
10 WAYS THAT WOMEN MESS UP THEIR LIVES"
I know some highly intelligent women who have made some seriously dumb decisions when it comes to men.
This left them with lots of heartache, loneliness(since they wouldn't move on), and very single for a very long time.
Here are some tips
1. Don't choose you man based on how hot he is or how much money he makes. Doing this could mean ending up with a man cheating on you, or a man so busy with his work he never has time for you or your children.
Don't select a guy for the wrong reasons!
Also, most often your true intentions will surface. You can't fake love - and the more time goes on and you hit really touch times, the more it's hard to stay in a relationships sans love.
2. Don't expect your man to be your whole life.
This will mean high expectations for him, and for you in the end unhappiness. This means you should find out who you are, and be solid in yourself before expecting a man to fulfill you.
Become an individual and be proud of who you are!
Additionally, picking anyone and then wanting marriage quickly is a huge turn off for a guy. They want to know they are special, not just someone you can make babies with.
4.Staying in a bad relationship/situation
This is a huge dumb dumb move.
You see girls think that although right now they are mistreated or he's too busy or he doesn't want to marry or he's an alcoholic, means that "ONE DAY" he won't.
This is how you end up still single and lonely, because you didn't move on to a man who doesn't love you.
You have got to mentally realize that if he's doing this now he will likely be doing the same thing to you (99.999999999999999999999999999999999% likelihood, and yes this is very scientific) years from now.
Additionally, the more he mistreats you and the more you put up with it, the more he doesn't respect you and really doesn't fall in love.
A woman who is gentle, but stands her ground and respects herself makes a huge difference.