Does He Love Me?

1. You laugh a lot together When you are with him, you have a great time, constantly joking around or acting silly. You could laugh for hours with him, and he always keeps you smiling. You "get" each other - your sense of humor is similar. 2. You feel comfortable in his arms When he holds you close, it feels right. You feel relaxed, calm, and at peace. It feels right. 3. He looks you in the eyes When he talks to you - he looks at you in the eyes. He eyes are truthful and fair - they echo the love in his heart. 4. You want to please him When it makes you happy to sacrifice for him, when you get joy out of surprising him. When you put own needs aside for him. 5. He wants to please you Your favorites appear - he knows what you love, and tries to give you those things.

Crazy Women Crazy Women are high maintenance, demanding women who freak out when they feel they aren't getting what they deserve. They require a lot of attention, love and assurance. They are often very insecure that the man will leave them or they might feel their man isn't good enough, and they consider leaving him for someone bettr. They are used to getting what they want and they were likely were spoiled as children. When they don't get what they expect, they lash out with fits of verbal abuse. They may scream at the top of their lungs, cry, and say some of the cruelest words to their man. In turn, the man of course lashes out as well, feels unloved and hurt, and he may in fact lose some love for that women each time she has an "episode". How to not be a "crazy women" -- don't be a drama queen! Being a drama queen is a sign of immaturity, little or no self control and selfishness. Crazy women are a waste of energy. They haven't figu...

Have you ever stopped and wondered why none of your relationships have worked out? Do you always blame the guy? He was always busy. He was too boring. He was selfish. He was cheap. He wasn't committing. Did you ever consider the problems you had -- you might have contributed to or caused? Here are a few examples He's cheap. He didn't take me out enough -- Well, were you cheap? Were you generous with him? Or did you always expect him to pay for everything? It's not just about you! If you want an equal partnership, taking him out and surprising him with gifts is a way to have a fantastic relationship. When you are generous with him, he will want to be generous too. He was always busy -- were YOU not busy enough? Did you just come home and watch TV and  wait for him to call? Wake Up, girl! Live your life! Life is a lot more fun when you plan activities with and without a man. Have a girls night out, volunteer, take a spanish class. Get off your buns and have...

I once met a man who had just proposed to girlfriend after dating a few years. I asked him if he was excited to be married, and he replied , "She will make a good first wife". Not surprisingly, two years later, they had a  bitter divorce. He was left emotionally scarred and financially devastated. Before marrying her, he admitted to having doubts about their relationship. They tended to fight a lot and their compatibility was questionable, but because they had already been dating for a few years - he thought the next sensible step was marriage. He had doubts before the marriage, but completely ignored the little voice. Another great example of this is Jenny Sanford and her cheating husband Mark Sanford. He didn't want to promise faithfulness before marrying her: "Mark told me that he didn’t want to use a wedding vow that included the promise to be faithful. He was worried in some odd nagging way, he said, that he might not be able to remain true to that vow...

Nagging doesn't get you more love. Complaining that he doesn't spend enough time with you, that he is not affectionate, or you want to know if you will have a future together -- doesn't get you where you want to be. Instead: 1. Show him love and affection when you need something. 2. Ask him in a loving manner for your requests. For example "Honey, Do you think you could" "Baby, can you help me with" 3. Remember that if you must be forceful in a relationship, it probably isn't meant to be. If you struggle a lot and feel that it causes you suffering, you should free yourself of it. This doesn't mean a relationship doesn't take work and sacrifice. It most definitely does! However, if you are constantly need to ask for love, and he doesn't give this freely, then you may be hoping to have it forever. This last point is important. Too many women put up and try so hard, and complain when they aren't getting what they want, in hopes he...

Nagging doesn't get you more love. Complaining that he doesn't spend enough time with you, that he is not affectionate, or you want to know if you will have a future together -- doesn't get you where you want to be. Instead: 1. Show he love and affection for no reason. 2. Ask him in a loving manner for your requests. For example "Honey, Do you think you could" "Baby, can you help me with" 3. Remember that if you must be forceful in a relationship, it probably isn't meant to be. If you struggle a lot and feel that it causes you suffering, you should free yourself of it. This doesn't mean a relationship doesn't take work and sacrifice. It most definitely does! However, if you are constantly need to ask for love, and he doesn't give this freely, then you may be hoping to have it forever. This last point is important. Too many women put up and try so hard, and complain when they aren't getting what they want, in hopes he would chan...

Ok - Big wake up call. If a guy isn't calling you his girlfriend, but his 'lady friend', this is a sign he doesn't want to really be with you, and doesn't love you. You are like a used beat up car --  convenient for the time being and fulfills his basic needs -- until he finds the more classy, expensive upgrade automobile of his dreams, then he won't need to drive you around anymore. Do not wait around for a guy like this! The fact that you stick around and put up with this status, is enough for a guy to not respect you. He's likely flirting with other women on the side -- at work, or at bars, and doesn't want to feel bad/guilty about it, so that's why he doesn't officially make you his girlfriend. Get a clue. If he isn't locking you down then stop wasting your time. Why doesn't he want you? You may not be the one for him. His timing may be off, or he's just too damn immature to realize how awesome you are. Whatever the case, d...

A relationship can be compared to a job/career and here's why: 1. When you are interviewing for a job --it is thrilling and exciting. During the interview process  you wonder, will they like you? Will they call you back? You may meet several people and hiring managers that decide whether you are good enough, smart enough, or worthy of their company. You worry over whether you will land the offer and be hired. Likewise, with a guy during your dating period, you wonder if he will continue seeing you and eventually, ask you to be his woommman!!! 2. When you apply for a job you may be "overqualified" for, you are applying for a guy that maybe you are out of his league??? But if you love the job and what you will be doing -- then that's your decision and you are the one that will live with it. (Not the people who judge you) OR you apply for a job that you are NOT qualified for (date a man that is out of your league) and perhaps it works out beautifully. 3. After ...

Real Love is: Kind Patient Humble Thoughtful Sincere Generous Positive  and Uplifting Caring Does your guy have the above attributes toward you? These are signs that he loves you. These are NOT signs of love Rude (Some women just think that's the way he is, and he does it to everyone. YUCK! When you demand respect, guess what - you get it!) Selfishness (He doesn't offer to help you carry in the groceries, help you to move, or build your IKEA desk) Guilt (He makes you feel bad about what you are not or what you did not do for him) Abusive (this should be obvious. But just to be sure everyone understand if a guy is putting you down, he doesn't love you -- whether this is physical or mental) Some final notes: 1. Don't devalue yourself. The more you think less of yourself , the more a man will. 2. Build yourself up. Have a life. Have other activities. He doesn't need to be the *only* thing in your life. That's just BORING and leads to low se...

1. Predictable. He calls when he says he will. Shows he is thoughtful of you, and you can trust him. 2. Frugal This is a sign of maturity. Someone who can save for the future, and doesn't blow all his money on things. 3. Not the life of the party It's ok that he isn't the funniest, most exciting man in the world. 4. Quiet or shy Generally speaking quiet men can be sweet and wonderful. 5. Nerdy Nerdy can be solid and loyal! Remember, look for character!!!

Is an engagement ultimatum appropriate? Is it appropriate to say to your man: "..if you don't want to get engaged after 2 years of dating, then I will move on." I think the answer (within reason) is an unequivocal YES. I know many stories of women who waited around 5, 7, 10 years for their man to propose, and guess what, he kept saying he would, and he didn't!!! Eventually the girl left, broken hearted with many wasted years. She had to start ALL over again after investing so much time and was that awful. Don't let a man waste your time, silly girl! If you are ready to marry, (and feel you know each other well and have dated extensively), if a guy wants to be with you, he doesn't need to throw the 1000 excuses book at you. What is also not very smart for women is to force/pressure/claw/whine their way into a proposal. This is also very silly. He may regret it later, and then you won't get the love you deserve, because it was under obligation.  ...

Hi Ladies, Listen up. This is important. Let's say you've been dating a man for awhile, and over time you notice he isn't the same man you used to know. His sweet, gentle and kind  ways have become more critical, more unloving and more harsh. He used to be excited about you, and now, he's thoughtless. Additionally, he wants you to change as well. Although change is inevitable, if he is changing for the worst, he may not have the maturity yet to be ready for a long term commitment or perhaps he doesn't love you after all - you are not the person he once that you to be. When you are falling in love - things get better  over time, not worse. Will you have difficulties? Yes. Will he change? Only naturally. But, if he is not the same man you used to know, and you find yourself gradually growing apart -- Watch Out! He is not yet solid in his person, and he still has some growing (and growing up) to do. Perhaps taking a little break and letting him figure things ...

Here is a reader question: What are some signs he is not love: Here are 5 BIG signs he is not in love: 1.He's not contacting you. You do all the calling and planning to get together. If you were to stop calling, emailing, texting, facebooking, you may never hear from him again. 2. He's not excited when he sees you -- (perhaps irritable when he sees you) When you plan to meet, he doesn't embrace you or kiss you. He doesn't look you in the eyes with love or passion or kindness. 3. He doesn't respect you. Love and respect go hand in hand. If he is putting you down, making fun of  you, or you leave him feeling bad about yourself, then he probably doesn't respect you (and therefore doesn't love you) 4. He's not planning a future with you This could mean little plans: Like: what are you doing on Friday or Saturday (Here you hardly know each other, so these plans are probably very small. Medium plans: Should we take a trip or vacation together. O...

If you want his love to blossom, you have to be sure you love him in the right manner. Some men want to be loved by kisses and affection Some men want to be loved by praise and words Some men want to be loved by presents Some men want to be loved by action  Some men want to be loved just by spending time with you There is a book called  5 Love Languages that discuss the various ways individual want to be loved.  If you love each other the correct way, your relationship thrives. If he asks you questions like, "Why don't you ever ...." (kiss me enough, talk to me when we are with friends, compliment me, etc) you are narrowing down his love language. If you want to have a great relationship, take a few notes, and be extra careful to express your love in that particular way. Affection Find out exactly what type of affection he prefers. Does he like public displays?(Some men may be irritated by this, while other could thrive. ) Does he want to cuddle or spoon? Does he like ...

You know your saggy belly, crooked toes, deformed nose, unpainted fingernails, gap in your teeth, double chin, big buns,crazy hair, or squeaky voice you have -- he doesn't see these as flaws. He accepts you and loves you with all the good and the bad. When a man loves you, he loves the whole you and though he may see your areas for improvement he can look at your flaw as unique traits that set you apart rather than ugly features. A man that cares for you doesn't point out your flaws to make you feel bad about yourself. He may joke about them, (if you can laugh about them) but he never loves you less because of them. Ladies of the world -- find a man who loves you for what goes on inside your head and heart rather than external physical features .

Some believe: I am going to fall in love and it will be amazing.  We will love each other forever and nothing will stand in our way.  Our differences will not get in the way and our relationship will always be happy and fulfilling. I am here to say - your relationship will likely have problems and differences will arise. Each partner's expectations and assumptions may strain the relationship as your varying opinions arise. I believe that it is critical you talk about Expectations and Assumptions about the relationship and each other.When you relationship starts to get serious, sit down with your man and discuss details of what your life would be like together if you were to marry. Here are a few questions you should definitely want to discuss: The five topics that couples fight about are: sex, chores, children, not feeling loved, money and in-laws. So these are the major question you want to talk about: (I know this topic seems very boring, but it is Oh- So cri...

When a man loves you,  he sticks around through the highs and the lows of life. When you are at your lowest point in life if he's still holding your hand and caring for you - you know he loves you deeply. If you were to lose a job, crash his car, become very ill, be embroiled in a lawsuit, short sale, foreclosure or a death in your family - look to see if he's still there comforting you and lifting you up. A man who is there lending an ear is a sign of a solid man who loves you and will continue to love you throughout your lifetime. When you enter a dark period of your life - this results in loss of  confidence. Suddenly, you may not be the same woman he once knew, instead and he will see a different side to you that may cause him to flee. You may cry every night, become needy and sensitive. Perhaps you become more moody, easily frustrated and temperamental. But a man who sees you through these tough times - one with amazing character - will brighten your day and let you...

Have you ever been in a heated debate/argument or suggested you break it off-- and he started to cry? A guy that gets emotional over you shows he has very deep rooted feelings for you. If your words have brought him to an emotional state (especially if he never cries) -- this is an indication that he holds you and your opinion in high regard. A guy that expresses his emotions in front of you trusts you and a guy who is serious about you sticks around during these emotional/painful/difficult times. Don't harm him with your tongue When you hurt your man you are hurting your relationship! Be careful with the words you choose -- do not be carelessly putting him down or threatening to leave. Although you can say you are sorry, it still leaves a dent and mistrust in the relationship. Bad boys don't cry If you are dating a man who has been through a lot of relationships and been through plenty of breakups -- if you are "just another girl" to him , you won't find...

One sign a guy wants to be with you is he wants to get away with you. It could be camping at Yosemite, heading off to Santa Cruz, or planning a trip to watch fireworks for the Fourth of July! If a guy loves spending time with you, he cares for you and wants to be near you! He enjoys your company and seeks out special time together.  Travel spices up your relationship! Travel is such a wonderful way to get to know each other and spice up your relationship. You can learn the history and culture of a new location together, stand in front of nature together and bond in a new way by getting out of the monotony of every day life. You see each other from a new perspective He may want to travel with you so you can spend time focused on each other full time. When you travel you are around each other all day and night -- so all your little habits will emerge. Travel is an excellent way for your man to see another side of you.

Here is a reader question:  He doesn't know if he wants a future with me. What should I do? First, I would find out why. Are you selfish? Do you get angry easily? Are you a drama mama? Are you too flirtatious? Finding out the why he feels this way is critical. Perhaps there is something inside of you -- that desperately needs some fixing. Regardless of which relationship you enter -- this may likely be a problem.  If he is asking you to work on an area or you will break up then ask your friends and family if you think his request is reasonable. Be sure to ask multiple people. Take some time to think about the why. If you feel that you are prepared to change then concsciously make the effort to work through your own issues, but don't be surprised if this is difficult.  If you determine his request is ridiculous or it goes against your fundamental nature -- for example, he says you are too loud, or you aren't funny enough -- then I would consider leaving altog...

It's your birthday, and if he loves you, he should definitely do something special. This special plan or gift does not need to be expensive, but instead it should be something that makes you feel loved and cherished. When a man loves you, he may surprise you with a romantic or favorite restaurant, a sweet gift, or surprise you with a drive to a special location. He might make it special by taking you to a baseball game or throw you a surprise party. Perhaps he will turn your car into a party house filled with balloons, or he might simply get your car cleaned. What's critical here is that there are many ways that he can make it special and if you see he has put effort in, you know he loves you! He does things he doesn't like to do He especially loves you when he plans something he could pass on. When a guy cares for you he may do something he typically won't. Let's say he NEVER cooks, but he decides to get in the kitchen and make you a delicious Birthday dinner...

What makes a guy fall in love: 1. You are interesting. You tell funny, scary or outrageous stories. You have an imagination that runs wild. Perhaps he finds it fascinating that you have traveled through Europe, or you're an immigrant that came form humble beginnings. A guy can fall in love with a special girl with very cool experiences that make you well rounded. Perhaps you have a quick wit, or can tell jokes better than Chris Rock. 2. You are knowledgeable/intelligent You love learning and read regularly about news. 3. You are cute You have a beautiful smile, smell, and softness to your face. You are a feminie angel. 4. You are sweet You love cuddling and caring for him. You rub moisturizer on his dry hands, and make him pancakes on Saturdays. You are emotional -- you miss him when he is gone and always wish him a fantastic day. 5. You remind him of his mom Whether it is your gestures, your attitude, the way you look or talk, a guy who loves his mom wants to fin...

Overtime whoever you choose to love and spend your time with eventually, you will discover his faults over time these fault may really start to drive you nutty, even if you care for him deeply. Likewise, he will see those areas of your life that you really need help and are lacking. Here are a few examples: Now, let's say you are a laid back( he may call it lazy), and he is a highly motivated overachiever. Guess who's going to get a lecture on being lazy and not working hard enough. You do!  Perhaps you are a little bit messy, or careless and tend to stain your clothes a lot or leave wet towels on the floor of your bedroom. Well, your neat boyfriend may become very disappointed in you every time he sees your clothing hanging on a chair, your drawer hanging out of the dresser, or your trash filling over calling to be emptied.  Let's say you are very shy and he is incredibly outgoing -- guess who may get a lecture on being extroverted (despite the fact that you hate sma...

Just because he... 1. takes you to fancy restaurants 2. tells you he thinks your great 3. makes love to you 4. calls you back when you call him 5. occasionally "hangs out" with you 6. occasionally calls you 7. invites you to hang out with his friends 8. thinks you have a good time together 9. has similar interests as you 10. buys you flowers or gifts 11. Tells you that you are beautiful Does Not Mean He Is In Love With You On the other hand, if 1. He is loyal to you 2. He is considerate of your feelings 3. He apologizes when he has hurt you 4. He works though difficulties rather than wanting it his way 5. He is unselfish 6. He is honest with you 7. He listens to your needs then these are good indications of love. And this is what you should look for in a man

When a man wants to be with you and marry you, he will make comments about your future children.  Here are some examples of this: "One day, we will tell our children about this date! They will love this story of our car breaking down and we laughed until help came!" "When we have children, we will teach them the Tango, Latin, and how to draw at an early age!" "Our children will NEVER act like that!" When a man is talking about your future and what he wants his/your life to look like, take note! A man that is dropping hints about your future life and children together is very serious about committing to you.  On the other hand, if a guys is saying, he doesn't know if he'll ever want to get married, want to commit fully to you or have children -- Listen to what he is saying! He means it! Don't wait around hoping a guy will change his mind about you or whether he wants to marry you! If he is clearly telling you he is not interested in a fu...

After being in a relationship after several month, you may start to come off of your "honeymoon" of getting to know each other and  begin to feel comfortable and secure in the relationship. You begin to understand each other's quirks, and pains. At this point --you see his faults and he sees yours. You may have had a few fights, and maybe even have been close to calling off the relationship when it hit a snag.. One important aspect of a relationship as dating starts to fade, and you get into the groove of your relationship -- is the perception that you can stop trying to be what you were when you started the dating dance: the sexiest, most loving, sweet, and irresistible girl you were when he first laid eyes on you. Look Good for Him Until you are 100 I am here to say --don't let that happen! Do not get lazy with your relationship, because this is what causes love to fade. Instead, agree to look good for him forever -- until you are 100. Make a pact to be the bes...

There are many women out there who can't find their man, not from lack of men that surround them or potential dates, but because no man can live up to these women's ridiculous standards. These women perceive each man as not good looking enough, not having the right job, not having enough education or not being capable of  charming their socks off to be the one. These women know exactly what they "want", and they waste many years looking for this man to fit their demanding list.  And so, these women go on with their lives, dating men, barely giving them any opportunity, and then moving onto the next man in hopes that he will fulfill the long list of traits she has created. Perhaps they are looking for "the one"-- their soul-mate, in which they find an incredibly amount of chemistry and passion that they are driven wild with desire. Some women will not want a guy who is "too nice" because they will walk all over them. They want a strong man! Ma...

Let me tell you something important -- some men may not be build for the committed, loving, devoted relationship. When looking for a man, make sure to look for his ability to not just love you, but love those around him. His kindness to strangers, homeless, the taxi cab driver will reflect what is truly happening inside. It is important to not just look for someone who is crazy about you , but also knows how to treat his sister, mother, colleagues, and neighbors in a caring manner. Although some women find it entertaining and challenging to date a "strong" man who takes control who commands the room, and demands respect -- overtime his strength if he doesn't have a soft interior can lead to a painful and difficult future together. His actions today predict his future actions.

Men that loves you will surprise you! 1.Surprise: A beautiful view You have plans to spend time together and you jump in his car for an ordinary day.  On the way, he gives  you the impression that perhaps he needs to run errands , or go back to his office to pick something up. You think little of it, but are a little confused why his errands seem to be 30 minutes away from his house. Suddenly, you are in a new city! He pulls up alongside a beautiful beach with a view of the city. You walk along the beach holding hands , and he tells you he loves you. 2. Birthday Surprise A guy that loves you wants to get you excited! He may make you think that your birthday will be a calm and quite one, and then secretly plan a huge party behind your back. Without you even knowing, he has emailed all your friends and family, picked out a cake, and organized a whole day around you! Why? Because he wants to make you happy! A guy that goes out of his way to surprise you for a special day, r...

Men that loves you will surprise you! 1.Surprise: A beautiful view You have plans to spend time together and you jump in his car for an ordinary day.  On the way, he gives  you the impression that perhaps he needs to run errands , or go back to his office to pick something up. You think little of it, but are a little confused why his errands seem to be 30 minutes away from his house. Suddenly, you are in a new city! He pulls up alongside a beautiful beach with a view of the city. You walk along the beach holding hands , and he tells you he loves you. 2. Birthday Surprise A guy that loves you wants to get you excited! He may make you think that One way he can do this is to secretly plan a party behind your back. Without even realizing, he has emailed all your friends and family, picked out a cake, and organized a whole day around you! A guy that goes out of his way to surprise you for a special day, really loves you! 3.

Some people mistakenly think that they will take the man they have and all his imperfections and "Mold Him" into the person they want him to be. This could be in the form of: Improving the way he dresses, talks, what he likes to do, who he hangs out with, what he does for a living or what kind of car he drives. Don't do this! Do not expect that your man is your blank canvas to create a masterpiece. Instead, understand that if he stays exactly the way he is and he is this person in 20 years you will love him. This is true love. Why should you not try to change someone? 1. It may work for a little while, but they will probably resort back to the person they are at the core. 2. It makes him feel that he has to be something else for you to love him 3. You may become very disappointed when it doesn't happen and you have wasted time Give suggestions, support him to be his best, but do not expect your man to become someone else. Best luck, Ladies!

The scenario: You have a man who you love dearly, and he cares about you (but does not love you). You want to be with him, and he "kind of" wants to be with you, but won't really commit. You are constantly breaking up and getting back together. He will break it off, say he needs space, and then he will proceed to squirm his way back into your life. He tells you how much he misses you, and how you are the one for him. He showers you with affection, love, gifts, flowers, kisses, and attention. Of course you fall for it. Because you love him and cherish him, even though he has caused you great pain. And so.. You take him back. Weeks go by, everything seems fine, maybe even a few months go by. And then: it happens again. He needs space, he isn't sure about the relationship, and he wants out. He leaves you. And then, he wants you back again. The cycle continues to repeat itself. This can go on for years, even an entire lifetime. So listen up closely! For you...

Continuing from our last post -- now it is time to examine your results! After taking a back seat for a few days, what was your result? 1. You noticed he called and asked when he would see you again. He missed you! He does care about you -- as soon as you took a backseat and were no longer easily available, he realized how much he cares about you. He was more affectionate and loving, and appreciative of your relationship. Conclusion: when you aggressively always call him, and are always available you might be taken for granted. Be sure you let him do work on his part. 2. He didn't call. If he barely noticed that he hadn't talked to you in awhile, this is not a good sign. This relationship may be completely one sided. You are easy to be with, and he isn't interested in pursuing you. If you drop all contact on your end and never hear from him again, let him go! Do not be in a relationship that is one sided! Conclusion: You should consider whether he truly loves y...

Here's a good love test. If you are the person usually calling, emailing, stopping by and asking your man to get together, try this test! Do not contact him, email him, phone him, or request to see him and see what he does! A guy that cares for you and misses you will most certainly be begging to know when you are available next and why you are so busy. If you do not hear from him, and he doesn't seem concerned, you might want to reconsider the relationship. I am not suggesting play games, but instead see what happens when you aren't the first to initiate. Take a "back seat" approach and see if he starts to take the lead and ask to see you. For some men, not talking for a few days is not an issue, so it may be a day or two (or three) before he realizes. However, this is a good test (especially for aggressive women) to see if he cares for you. Again, do not play games, but instead allow him to "lead the way" and you will get some good insights. ...

The breakup boyfriend. If you are constantly breaking up and getting back together with a boyfriend, this is  a serious sign of relationship trouble. Consider not talking for awhile and trying to figure out if this relationship is really worth saving. 1. The problem that won't disappear Most couples fight over the same problems -- money, sex, work, kids, chores. Whatever you are fighting over now probably will be the same fight you have in a month or year. So you need to find a solution and stick with it. Accept each other for who you are and lower expectations to increase happiness. For example, if he is always late, then understand that this is part of him and don't expect him to be on time. 2. Fighting is ok Happy couples fight. But, how you fight is what is important. Respect each other, listen to what your partner is saying and try to find a solution that makes you both happy. 3. Can you live with it? You meet. You date. You fall in love. And then reality hits ...

1. Common Interests -- You aren't clueless "I fell in love with a girl when she could tell me what a 6-4-3 DP meant in a baseball box score without having to be told 3,987 times. " Impress a guy with your knowledge and you could find him falling in love very quickly! 2. You inspire him to bigger things You encourage him, believe in him and allow him to talk about his success and struggles. A strong woman who stands by her man can truly steal a man's heart! Supportive, positive, and independent women can impact a man's life in great ways and light a fire under him to pursue great dreams. 3. You compliment Him with your personality/background He's the shy, nerdy guy. You are the outspoken, funny, extrovert. You are the sensitive, warm, loving and he is strong and powerful. You are book smart. He is street smart. 4. You stand up for yourself -- and gain his respect A woman that doesn't let a man walk over her, or stands up for what she believe...

Here are a few examples of deep intensive and perhaps obsessive love: 1. They are (sexually) possesive 2. They have an intense longing and craving  to be with you emotionally, not just physically/sexually 3. Obsession -- they think about you a lot -- day and night 4. They would die for you 5. You are the center of their world 6. They find no (or very little) fault in you 7. They feel a rush from you 8. When they are or feel rejected -- they are deeply sad and experience a great deal of pain 9. They believe you are different from every woman that exists. 10. They become very moody -- when things don't appear to work out with you they have a great sadness, and they are very happy/high when things are going well with you. from Love Anthropologist Helen Fisher

Here's a reader questions: What does it mean when a man says "you mean the world to me"? A man who tells you he thinks the world of you (and means it) truly cares for you! You are his everything and you deeply mean a lot to him. Consider this one of biggest compliments a man could give you! A man who loves you deeply says: "You mean the world to me", "I cherish you" and "You are important to me". The thought of losing you would bring great sadness into his life! He admires you, cares for you, respects you and loves you very deeply! Remember to always be sure to check his actions with his words! Do not let a guy express his "love" only through his words. Always be sure he is treating you respectfully and affectionately. Good luck to all you ladies of the world!

Don't be one of those women who are fooled by the fast charmer. The man who has a fantastic smile, a great personality, very good looking -- what could be the perfect man! He may barely know you, but he seems to warm up very quickly. He compliments you frequently, tries to get physically close very fast. He also may try to get to know you very quickly as well. He could ask you many questions (without talking about himself). He seems highly focused on you and very interested! Can you believe you have found "the one". A man who is totally and completely devoted to you -- only within only a few short days/weeks. Hold on, Girl and listen up! A guy that falls that fast for you isn't in love, he is in lust/obsession or just got out of another relationship. If you are looking for real love, let it blossom and grow over time.   Love is built on a foundation of friendship and trust. So don't confuse quick obsession with glorious love. 

Did you know that scientists have developed a mathematical model with 94% accuracy to determine if a marriage will be successful? This is how it works: Scientists measure the interaction between a couple. Couples discuss a variety of topics (including sensitive ones like making love and finances) while being video taped. After the discussion takes place, scientists examined the video and measure every interaction between the couple. Both positive and negative scoring is associated with loving and affection behavior vs. disrespectful behavior. Scientists classify the interactions including: anger, affection, humor, and respect. What does this mean for you? Every comment you make to your man has a huge impact! Be positive, affection and loving. If you find your man is *not* returning the favor, consider this -- would you like to be with this person the rest of your life? Some indicators of divorce: -- If you argue with your spouse about finances once a week, your marriage is ...

One question from a reader:Does my man love me if he is constantly busy? First, consider what your man does for a living, or what his circumstances are: if he getting his PhD, is working full time, and going to school full time; or if his job requires him to travel extensively to meet with clients, you may rarely see him. If you are dating a lawyer, entrepreneur, or a doctor, you can expect that his free time is limited. If your man is very devoted to his work, ask yourself -- does he call me when he has free time to spare -- even if it is just for a few minutes? Does he make plans and let you know when he is again free? If he is squeezing you between his very busy schedule, this is a good sign he cares for you. If your man isn't busy due to school and work, but with his hobby or friends, you may want to consider the following: Does he make *any* time for you in the future or regularly on the weekend? If he is just keeping you on the back burner until someone better comes alo...

What happens when your relationship hits a snag? For example, he's been very busy at work and you haven't seen him in awhile. He (or you ) are constantly late, messy, cheap, tired, sad, and so goes the list. If a man loves you -- the thought of losing you will definitely cause him to stir into action. He will become very solution oriented, figuring out "a plan" to make sure things will work. Inevitably, if a man feels he cares for you and you are wonderful, he will bend his ways, and be determine to find a "happy medium" or some men may simply cave in altogether. If you are the problem (you are nagging him, you want him to always pay for things, you have been demanding and driving him nuts) he will try to figure out a compromise -- instead of dropping you like a hot potato. On the other hand, a man who doesn't truly care for you, will find your relationship disposable. He may threaten you with a breakup, tell you he could easily find another, or te...